Not much longer until you get to walk down the aisle and say your vows to the person you love the most! But before that, you need to wrap up planning for the big event. You have a lot done already—the venue, the cake, the dress—but one thing you’re still stuck on is the wedding playlist!
For couples with a similar taste in music, creating a wedding playlist is no biggie. But what if you’re into heavy metal, and your partner is a die-hard Swiftie? It can feel like a battle trying to agree on what to include and what to leave out. To help you plan a musical lineup that both you and your partner will be happy with, here’s our guide to finding harmony!
Start With The “Venn Diagram” Tracks
Before you start arguing over Metallica vs. Motown, sit down together with a drink and find the common ground. Even if your tastes seem polar opposite, there’s likely a middle ground you both enjoy. Maybe it’s 80s pop, 90s R&B, or just classic wedding cheese (looking at you, “Dancing Queen”). Start your playlist here. These songs are the safety zone—the tracks that make you both want to dance.
Assign Genres to Specific Moments
A wedding isn’t just one long dance party; it has different phases. Use this to your advantage! If your partner loves acoustic folk but you prefer high-energy EDM, you don’t have to mash them together. Use the acoustic tracks for the ceremony and cocktail hour, and save the high-energy beats for the late-night reception. When you give each genre its own time slot, both get played without clashing or feeling out of place.
Let The Pro Handle the Mashups
Struggling to settle? Why not ask that DJ you hired if they can take each of your favorite styles and blend them into a cohesive mix? This is what DJs are made to do! They can find remixes that bridge the gap or smooth out the flow between wildly different tempos. A good DJ can make a transition from country to hip-hop sound surprisingly natural.
Implement the “Veto” Rule
To keep the peace, agree on a “Veto List.” Give each other five “Golden Veto” tickets. If your partner puts a song on the list that you physically can’t stand, you can use a ticket to ban it—no questions asked. This prevents arguments and spares you both from enduring songs you can’t stand at your own party. Just use your Golden Vetos wisely!
Focus on the Guests
If you and your partner are deadlocked, take a step back and remind yourselves: the reception is a celebration for everyone. If you can’t agree on a genre, look at what will get your guests moving. Sometimes, realizing that neither of your obscure favorites will get Grandma dancing is enough to make you compromise on a crowd-pleaser.
Creating Harmony on the Dance Floor
Creating a wedding playlist you and your partner both agree on can be tough if you have wildly different tastes, but it’s not impossible! Try these strategies to curate a mix that will have you both tearing it up on the dance floor during your reception.
